Let’s face it, divorces are hard, stressful, but sometimes necessary. Whether we like it or not, divorces happen. And no matter how hard it can be for us to let go of a person we used to love, sometimes it’s better to get a divorce than to suffer through unfunctional marriage.
The whole process of divorce can be stressful for you and the whole family. Suddenly your everyday life changes, and it feels like there’s nothing much you can do about it. However, you need to take care of your mental health in the process and come out of that divorce stronger than ever. Here’s how to do so.
1. Make a daily schedule
Divorce usually isn’t the happiest moment of your life. You’ll probably feel sad, drained and helpless. Most people even find it hard to get out of bed and go to work, get on with their lives. That’s why following a daily schedule to get you out of the state of depression is important.
However, most people find it hard to stick to a routine, especially while going through a divorce. But you have to start somewhere. Even the smallest steps and house jobs like making a bed or washing your hair will help you get out of the state of despair and make you feel better. Every little accomplishment is essential for your mental health and well-being.
2. Clean the house
Even though you probably don’t feel like getting out of the bed, moving on with your life is essential if you want to stay sane. Small steps such as dusting around the house can help you break out of the depressing cycle, and move on. It doesn’t matter if you’re staying at the place you and your ex-spouse used to share, or you’ve moved out, cleaning the house can help you release the negative emotions while you’re doing something useful.
You can start by changing the sheets or you can store everything that reminds you of your ex in one box and move it to the garage. Clean the bathroom and the kitchen, vacuum, dust and you’re ready for a fresh start.
3. Have a “me time”
Everyday life is stressful. When you add a divorce on top of that, it may feel like you’re losing your mind. Constant fights, moving out, deciding who gets the children, are huge divorce stressors. That’s why you need to take some time for yourself to process your thoughts and unwind for a while.
In the never-ending cycle of the things that need to be done during the divorce, it’s crucial to take some downtime. Whether it’s soaking in the tub with a glass of wine, or reading your favourite book while listening to some music, relaxing is an essential part of saving your mental health.
To be honest, exercising was probably the last thing on your list if you’re going through a divorce. Whether it’s lack of time or lack of will, even 10-minute exercises at home can help you clear your mind and boost your energy.
Make some time in your daily schedule for at least 10 exercises and they will make you feel much better. High-intensity exercises release hormones called endorphins that will help you get out of the depression and keep your mental health on a high level. In case you don’t feel like exercising, meditating or doing light yoga can be beneficial as well.
5. Seek professional advice
Divorce requires dealing with a lot of papers, and sometimes even court. It’s quite hard leading a normal life while you’re lost in papers, documents and responsibilities. So, it’s essential to have a professional by your side who’ll help you and guide you through the process.
Consider searching for reputable family lawyers that will provide you with quality representation and trusted advice in the process. They will present you all the options, and help you decide which one is the best for your case so you’re satisfied with the outcome. Having a good lawyer by your side will help you keep calm and think clearly during these difficult times.
6. Hang out with friends and family
Once the divorce is over, you can feel lonely and dreadful. Even though at the beginning it may seem like your world is crashing down, look at the things from the bright side. You now have more time for your family and friends!
Reach out to your family, and let them know you’re struggling. It’s always good to have a shoulder to cry on. Having emotional support from the people you love, and who love you back, is a key step to staying mentally healthy. Even if they didn’t go through the divorce, they can help you by listening to your problems, and being there for you when you need them. In addition to that, consider joining a support group. Although it may not seem like your kind of thing, talking with people who are going through the same things as you are, can be helpful as you know that you are not alone.
Going through a divorce is a hard time in an individual’s life. You can feel sad, miserable, drained and even depressed. However, keep in mind that those feelings will pass, and you will feel like yourself again in no time. Even though the process is tough, you must take care of your mental health. Don’t neglect your physical and mental health; exercise, hang out with friends and focus on improving yourself for your own sake.